The most creative and difficult task of all parents and guardians is the care and upbringing of the child. Raising a child according to books, literature, social networks, advice and instructions from the environment can be effective in certain situations. However, there are also situations where the rules are not appropriate because each child is unique and unique. The probability that a child thinks and feels exactly the same as an adult, parent or guardian is very small.
A child is a person in creation from birth. Prudently focused attention on the child’s needs is the essence of the parent or guardian. The child’s personality should be known and loved to the last detail, and the child’s trust and loyalty to the parent should be earned. Loving a child is a reciprocal process. Every parent or guardian should do their best to better understand and understand the child’s needs. Undoubtedly, it will not always be easy. The most important is the end result, that is, a happy and satisfied child.
Rejoicing in posterity is implied by looking at the history of the human race. Today, however, we are in danger of depriving this joy of pleasure. Raising a child in these times means anxiety, restlessness and great effort. Times have changed a lot and are constantly changing. Employed mothers successfully balance between a business career, raising a child, and household responsibilities. Anxiety, guilt, sleepless nights, and helplessness pile up. The most beautiful part of family life is shaken by feelings of insecurity and guilt. When the mother takes the crying child in her arms, she makes the child and the mother (herself) happy. Fatigue is much easier to bear than a baby crying or a cry for attention, a hug and a touch that is recognized from an inconsolable baby cry. When small children want a light on during the night, listen to their needs and desires and do not turn off their light.
Thoughtful upbringing of children requires time and effort. Education is the most creative but least valued job with full-time work. Here mistakes are easy to make and difficult to correct. It takes a lot of effort, love, sacrifice and commitment to raise a child into an adult with their own character and traits. The most important principle of good parenting is to ensure mutual happiness and satisfaction. In order for every parenting and upbringing to be successful, keep in mind that it grows out of love and slowly withers away from strictness and strict rules.
Young children learn about life by looking up to all the adults around them. The child’s behavior should be acceptable to the family and the wider community. The child needs to be taught to listen, to tell the truth no matter what. The problem of discipline usually occurs when separating a child from the immediate family. The rules that are adopted from the earliest childhood are respect for other people, respect for other people’s property, what a child is allowed to do, what is forbidden to do. As a child grows up, he should adopt these rules as norms of everyday behavior, because only then will he have value. By no means should a child view any rules as imposed rules caused by orders from their parents and guardians.
An effective rule that is very simple for a child to adopt is not to do to other people what we do not want other people to do to us. Have a child get a reward for good behavior sometimes. When a small child screams on the store floor because he wants a player, the parent gives in most often and buys a toy until a decent child in the store gets a toy for his polite behavior. A positive attitude is always effective in children. Instead of orders to stack toys in the room, the child should be told that it would be nice not to scatter toys around the room. Keep strict parenting rules for difficult life situations and life-threatening situations. The rules should always be adapted to the age and character of the child and less strict and more flexible.
The frightening thought is that a parent can be the answer to a child’s pampering that drives him to a series of dissatisfied situations from which unhappy parents and children emerge. A spoiled child denies the needs of others. A hungry infant has no awareness of the mother’s fatigue so this is not a pampering. A child who craves the frequent embrace of a parent is often unfairly characterized as a spoiled child. This is about the child’s need for gentle touches and strengthening the sense of security. Choose a priority regardless of advice and sermons from the environment – the need for food, for touch, for a hug, for conversation, support is real. Without food, water and heat the child will not survive. Without enough love and understanding in the family, the child will not become a complete person capable of loving and facing all life’s adversities and situations.