Adopting good habits always depends on realistically assessed desires and needs of each individual. An example would be home renovation. The desire is to renovate the home to make it look nicer, more comfortable and more functional. However the person is faced with lack of money and lack of time. Still, one should not give up on the idea nor be disappointed and regret it. One should think positively, wondering what can be done to make the living environment better and more beautiful – that is the ultimate goal. For example, instead of a complete renovation, a general cleaning of the home can always be done. Then all unnecessary things can be taken out of the home, rickety cabinets and chairs can be repaired, excess things donated. It is best to divide the work into several smaller parts and do it step by step.
Gradual changes in life – the same rules apply when the intention is to change the diet. Bad habits are not formed overnight so they cannot be changed in one day. Instead of a radical cut that usually fails one should make a plan for gradual change. Instead of sugar cakes, start making honey cakes. Instead of a few cups of coffee a day, start with one to two cups of coffee a day. Instead of industrial snacks, start introducing nuts, walnuts, almonds and peanuts.
Discipline is always important – creating realistic expectations does not mean giving up your own desires. And if you really want to do something, you will surely find a way to make that desire come true or complete the job. One of the greatest motivational speakers was John Ron (1930-2009). John used to say: Discipline is a bridge between goals and accomplishments. Managing expectations is not a waiver. This is a kind of discipline of desires. This is about rationalizing desires and reducing desires in realistic and achievable frameworks In order to make a wish come true, we need good wishes and intentions, but also good habits.
Good life habits – good habits known to everyone are physical activity and tidiness (personal hygiene, clean and tidy desk, cleaning the home). Good habits include psychological reactions that people can learn and apply in everyday life. For example, bad experiences should not be projected into future events but analyzed and learned from mistakes. For example, if you have followed a diet with the goal of losing weight and you have not succeeded in that, then do not project the old disappointment into new plans and desires. Maybe you wanted to lose weight in a few days or you weren’t persistent and persistent enough. Good habits include learning that we do not always fall into the same trap of excessive generalizations. If you were once rejected in a competition for a new job, it does not mean that you will be constantly rejected.
Old experiences will come in handy – the human experience of the world is colored and influenced by various expectations. We need to learn to make a clear distinction between the real state and the expected state. Then we crossed the biggest path to the realization of desires and hopes. A good assessment of the future based on a positive rationalization of past experiences combined with a rationally defined plan of realization (of several parts) is the best way to achieve our goals without unnecessary disappointments. Love your positive and negative past experiences. Treat your experiences as an orientation that tells you what you can achieve, what you can expect, and mistakes you can correct. Treat your experiences as a capacity test in a different way and always with the intention of being a happy ending (fulfilled wish or intention). Treat all unhappy and stressful past life situations as a school of life that teaches you what to avoid and how a stronger and more operational individual can deal with a similar upcoming situation. If you did not pass the job competition because you do not speak several foreign languages, then instead of mourning, use the endless online and free online opportunities to improve your knowledge and skills.
Always be wise when it comes to hopes, desires and expectations and be honest with yourself and others (for example, it takes me seven days to learn a basic knowledge of German, in real terms a month). That way you will always avoid all unnecessary disappointments. Instead of feeling helpless and dissatisfied – you will be satisfied and ready to raise the threshold of requirements to a higher level (for example, it will take me at least two months to learn basic knowledge of German).