Every person in the world loves to feel happy. Some people are happy while some people constantly avoid that feeling. Experts say the secret of success lies in optimism. The glass is always half full to optimistic people while the glass is always half empty to the pessimists. Some people observe the world around them through glasses with black lenses while there are people who look at life with glasses with pink lenses. Yet, pessimists can also be happier and more cheerful.
Optimism is a skill that is learned
Psychologists say optimism is a skill we learn all our lives. Each person can influence their own thinking. The basic lesson in learning optimism is that happiness is in the little things. The good news is that most little things are free. Little things are at hand. People just need to notice all the little free things around them to be happier. Forget the pagan belief that after every happiness comes misfortune. Knocking on a tree to hear evil comes from a time when people believed that ghosts lived in trees. They believed that knocking called on good spirits and drove away evil spirits.
“Faith in joy is the same as joy.” – William Shakespeare
Optimists have a longer lifespan. Optimists have better physical shape and reduced risk of disease. When optimists encounter stressful situations, they experience such situations as transient states. They don’t worry about situations they can’t influence. Imagine an optimist and a pessimist who paid for a vacation in an expensive resort instead of the sun greeted by rain, cold and wind. Pessimists and optimists know that meteorological conditions cannot be changed. The optimist will look forward to the rain as he will have more time to visit museums, monuments and other sights. The pessimist will blame himself for not studying the weather forecast better. He will consider the vacation ruined. The optimist experiences bad events less personally. The optimist finds something good in any unfavorable circumstances. There is an endless list of small and free events around us: a walk in the woods, the smell of flowers, a touch of grass barefoot, a refreshing wind on the beach, playing with children, birdsong, the smell of delicious food on the table, comfortable shoes, cold water that quenches thirst, a good joke , socializing, first morning coffee, great movie or music, socializing with the family, and so on.
Little things and many everyday events come in waves. We need to notice them and indulge in positive emotions. When that doesn’t happen — happiness is lacking. Psychologists call this loss of happiness “a hedonistic adaptation”. The word hedonism comes from the Greek word meaning “enjoyment” or the pursuit of pleasure. The term adaptation in psychology is used to refer to the ability of our senses not to respond to certain sensory stimuli. Adaptation is useful because it relieves irritation.
For example, if your home is in a very noisy street, over time your senses adapt to the noise. A person who has just moved into your street hears an annoying noise unlike you. Hedonistic adaptation means we no longer enjoy walking through the woods because we are used to the event. To bring back that beautiful feeling of happiness, psychologists say to take a few steps back. We need to be reminded of why we loved walking through the woods, a particular song, and the like. “Happiness is in everything – you just have to know how to single it out.” Confuchie.
Wise messages teach us to live in the present and the given moment. We need to practice putting our focus back on the things and people around us and the events that happen to us every day.
Instant happiness is a product of quick satisfaction to which we are led by advertisements and fleeting various social trends. The feeling of happiness is eternal and is found all around us in many small things. The pitfalls of instant happiness people can avoid if they are aware that true happiness is not bought but discovered by themselves without citing advertising messages.