People seem to spend their whole lives “waiting”. Children are waiting to grow up, create a family, own a home, a business career and success. Adults mostly work and are constantly waiting for a weekend or vacation or holidays to be more with children, grandchildren. Adults are waiting for the late years to be calmer and more relaxed. The custom of waiting is very important, especially for the younger population. Every child who masters the technique of patience and patient waiting has a stronger character and is easier to face challenges. Waiting and waiting awakens joy in children. It encourages the development of concentration and work abilities and gives better results. Walter Mischel was an Austrian-German-American psychologist. He studied the custom of “waiting” in the 1960s. It was psychologist Mischel who discovered that waiting encourages the development of concentration and work abilities and finally gives better results. The research was done with children as young as 4 years old at a Stanford University kindergarten with the so-called Marshmallow test. The test was performed with sweets. The children could eat 1 candy right away or wait a few minutes and later get 2 sweets. Children who did not immediately eat one candy and later got 2 sweets had more success in life. So the Chinese scholar Confuchie says, “He who has no patience with trifles will not have a successful grand life plan.” Impatient people have decisions only for the present while patient people have a broader view of the world and life. Author Markus Cerenak says on his website that patient people make decisions for the future. He also expresses regret because today in the age of Netflix, Google, iTunes and online shopping, patience is actually a trait that is slowly disappearing. Patient people are less likely to judge and better understand other people, says Cerenak. They have less trouble and stress which is good for health.
Tips / ways to learn patience for children and adults:
- Surround yourself (if possible) with proven reliable people. These are people who keep their promises or report delays in time, the impossibility of fulfillment due to external influences, and give guidelines / advice for further actions.
- Get a table calendar for the current year. Write down directly on the calendar (circle the dates with a thick pencil) all the important events and happenings that are yet to happen (birthdays, gatherings, holidays, celebrations, anniversaries, etc.). This helps patient but also impatient people learn more about patience even though it seems banal.
- If you constantly feel bored and thus become impatient then you turn boredom into creativity. Engage in a hobby, talk to people while you wait in waiting rooms, or queues. Time passes so fast. It is important to start something new – every start is difficult but it gives a stimulus to pass your time usefully.
- Try to be more tolerant of other people and yourself. Impatient people have a feeling of impatience due to their own expectations and desire to quickly resolve life events.
- Anger and haste lead to forgetfulness and bitterness and stress. A light pace leads to calm and patience. Everything you do — do it at a slower pace. In time, such a light pace will become a part of life. Every change takes time.
- Progress and thus the acquisition of a calmer character always goes with small steps. Human power is quickly expended if energy is focused too much on events that people cannot change. Opposition is not an option. Patience and endurance are acquired in adulthood by calm actions.
- Practice patience in all everyday situations. Try to have more contact with patient people. Seek advice for certain situations when you easily lose your temper and create nervousness for yourself.
- Learn to observe nature, the environment, the people around you and the situations around you for longer.