Our own blessings and enjoyment of the people we know are the two most important attributes of happy people
- Happiness is a feeling and not a circumstance. People’s happiness does not depend on a web of events, but on events in people. Happiness is the way an individual chooses when thinking about life. Happiness is a more lasting sense of well-being and much more than fun and enjoyment.
- Abraham Lincoln said, “People are generally as happy as they are willing to be.” A Buddhist proverb says: Pain is inevitable, but suffering is not obligatory.
- The most common attributes of happy people are not money, fame or good looks, nor intelligence or talent. The two most important factors are gratitude and fulfilling personal relationships. The formula is simple: add up the blessings and enjoy family, acquaintances, good neighbors and friends.
- Unfortunately, this is not always easy. People whose natural instincts produce gloomy looks and pessimism need to re-train the mind.
- Many people need discipline and practice to think positively. Sometimes it’s just a matter of changing perspective, choosing to see, and appreciating the positive side.
- In other cases, it is necessary to refuse to dwell on pain, disappointment, or envy and instead lead the mind to good thoughts, including all the things we should be grateful for.
- Interestingly, the ability to maintain a positive attitude is also important for creating and maintaining meaningful relationships and seeing the best in them.