Tips for good decisions and assessments and easier crisis management
Stress, tension, panic, indecision often lead to bad decisions, bad judgments and choices in life. By changing the way of thinking, performing physical exercises for relaxation and changing the diet, calmness can be achieved in times of crisis and making important decisions (life milestones). The first piece of advice from a psychologist is that every person should not worry in advance about something that may or may not happen in the future. The problem is solved only when the person is the least upset, the least tired and the least tense. When dealing with a stressful event, a person should not react promptly. Dr. Jessamy Hibberd is a clinical psychologist, a member of the British Psychological Society and the British Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Psychotherapy. Dr. Hibberd, in collaboration with journalist Joe Asmar (who writes a regular column on interpersonal relationships in Cosmopolitan magazine http://www.cosmopolitan.com ) offers recommendations to help overcome these life problems. Their theoretical and professional knowledge and practical experiences are written in the manual “This book will make you calm”. The essence of the book is to give readers an explanation of the feeling of tension, panic and insecurity and overcoming restlessness, fear and anxiety. The book explains how to overcome bad feelings and make good decisions, good assessments and good choices instead of bad choices and wrong decisions. The book starts from the fact that there are an increasing number of patients in the world with health problems caused by stress. In England, the number of hospital admissions increased by 7% and in the United States by as much as 44% in just one year. The authors provide so-called mental maps (schemes) that explain the connection between certain thoughts, judgments and behaviors. The authors provide a strategic solution to the problem by breaking down the problem into smaller parts and easier to master factors. This method means turning a “mountain” (symbolizing a large number of problems) into a “mole” (symbolizing a series of small and simple tasks that each person can face). The book provides a series of illustrations with numerous examples. Let’s say the sister comes to visit the sister who broke the laptop the next day. The proposal is to write on paper the solution to the problem in the columns “for” and “against”. A sister who broke a laptop can run away from home, have a panic attack, headache, stomach upset. It is necessary to choose the explanation that sounds most true and solvable. Step by step. I’ll let my sister go and pay me a visit at my home. I’ll offer coffee or tea. Explain what happened with the apology. Calmly accept criticism. Offer laptop repair service and pay for repairs. Dr. Hibberd says that stress affects mentally and physically every person who is under pressure. It affects the opinion and behavior of the individual. It is accompanied by anxiety (fear of failure or perception of threat and danger) and worry (negative and uncertain thought process which usually predicts the worst case scenario). Stress is good if it encourages a positive effect or bad if it causes depression, hopelessness, anxiety, insecurity, withdrawal. The latter cause frequent or constant inconveniences, but also the frequent and constant absence of pleasant events (a person’s belief that only ugly events happen in life). If a person sees an event as an unsolvable problem then it is anxiety and depression. If a person sees the event as an obstacle and a challenge, then it is a reason to react, rejoice in the progress and development of the personality. This is the goal of cognitive-behavioral therapy. Changing the way of observation and instead of “chewing” possible negative outcomes, the patient learns to see a solution. Stress affects the psyche and body. The primitive automatic “fight or flight” reaction is a reaction to stress. Bad stress is solved by a technique that works on both tracks (breathing exercises, exercises for muscle relaxation, visualization technique). The authors of the book describe all these terms in detail in the book. All techniques can be done independently at home. Pilates, yoga, meditation, tai-chi and the like are also taught).
One of the simplest techniques is to relax with your shoulders back several times during the day. Crouching posture is one of the first indicators of tension. Another suggestion is an “escape trail” (or a mental journey to a fictional or real place that gives a pleasant and safe feeling). The person is advised to sit comfortably in a quiet and quiet corner of the house in difficult moments. The person needs to take a deep breath and move to a new sanctuary evoking in his mind the smell, sound, taste and scene of the new sanctuary.
Some people claim to work better in chaos. However, the authors deny this claim because by clearing the chaos / disorder from a person’s life, the disorder in the head is also removed. It is a mistake to believe that a person is a great and better worker and / or parent if he or she constantly cares. Care and commitment are two different concepts. Caring has stress as a result while commitment gives fulfillment, satisfaction and inner peace. The authors advise that people do not deal with the “inner world”, rewinding and anticipation possible outcomes) but people pay more attention to the “real world around”, ie a specific scene, person, socializing, new occupation and the like.
It is important to choose healthy foods that strengthen the body to fight stress, lower blood pressure and restore a cheerful mood. These include foods rich in vitamin C (parsley, cauliflower, broccoli, thyme, etc.), magnesium (spinach, apricots, etc.), B vitamins and vitamin E (nuts) and omega-3 fatty acids (tuna). , salmon, etc.). Every person who suffers from stress, panic should immediately introduce a different way of thinking and behaving without delay.
About Dr. Jessamy Hibberd
Dr Jessamy Hibberd is a London-based Chartered Clinical Psychologist, author and commentator with over 15 years in clinical practice.Dr Jessamy is co-author of the bestselling ‘THIS BOOK WILL…’ series (sold in 11 countries) and author of the bestselling book The Imposter Cure, described by the Sunday Times as “the definitive guide to tackling and understanding the psychological mind trap of imposter syndrome.”Her latest book Stars Before Bedtime is for stargazers of all ages – a soothing journey through the glittering constellations of the night sky. Woven with tried and tested sleep exercises and mindfulness techniques to help children relax, clear their minds and settle down for sleep.Dr Jessamy also works as a media psychologist, she is a mental health expert for Women’s Health and regularly contributes content to almost every newspaper and magazine you can think of. Dr Jessamy was the headline speaker at Ted-X University of Nicosia in November 2017 (video available to view on YouTube). For more on Jessamy, you can visit her website DrJessamy.com or follow her on Instagram.