Young children are more responsive to the tone of their voice
The system of raising children begins at birth. Part of the daily life of a small child and parents / guardians, educators and others (caring for children) is the way the mother reacts to the child’s cry, the speed of fulfilling the child’s needs and later desires, the way to sleep, getting used to cleanliness, introducing incentives rewards, clapping hands and less sympathy. We often attend the beating of children who cry in front of the shop window, or screaming for some items from toy and food stores, or when the child will no longer be able to walk / walk on their own and the like. However, non-violent upbringing of small children is the most important. Children do not understand the meaning of “beatings”. They develop a fear of pain, which establishes a type of conditioning in order to avoid pain. This does not mean that the child will not do what is forbidden if the educator / parent is not present. It is not uncommon for parents to explain the blows by “hitting the ass over the diaper”, or never on the head only by the hands, and the like. A child does not make a significant difference. Physical punishment of children is an introduction to child abuse and victims then most often become abusers. So far, numerous articles, essays, publications and books have been written and processed in which domestic abuse is cited as an explanation for someone’s misconduct. The child later becomes an abuser by identifying with his or her own abuser — how paradoxical this sounds. The child has an expectation that he will be recognized “as the same” and will no longer be a victim of abuse. Victims of abuse often become targets of other abusers (for example, peer bullying at school). Physical abuse is usually not isolated from other abuse (psychological, emotional, sexual). Abuse always leaves a mark even though the wound from abuse somehow heals but it remains a lifelong scar — then the responsibility of the elderly is even greater. Physical punishment is a gross violation of the basic rights of the child (integrity and dignity of the child). As early as 2005, the Council of Europe began an action to ban corporal punishment of children, which has so far been adopted in dozens of countries. All the children of the world deserve equal rights and laws.
- Very young children react more to the tone of voice in which something is said than to the type of word and the threatening appearance of the parents.
- For slightly older children, the blows cause both fear and anger. There are children who, despite the pain of spite, will not cry. Crying in this case would be an admission of guilt or confirmation that the beatings are justified. The child sometimes looks at the parent with their mouths closed without tears and directly in the eyes – waiting or receiving blows.
- For children in puberty and in the period of early and middle adolescence, strokes have the opposite effect. Beatings are no longer a means of punishment but a way of provoking revolt, anger and the need for revenge. Young people will say that the beatings violated their dignity by denying physical pain. This is especially true of beatings received from fathers. They say mom’s punches hurt less. It is not a matter of a “heavy hand” but the fact that at this age the father represents society, conscience, morals and rules of conduct. A father is someone whose praise is very important and who is physically stronger and strikes directly at dignity.
- In practice, there are cases where young men and women strike back at their parents / guardians / educators, not because they are rude and disrespectful to the elderly, but out of anger that they cannot control and whose dignity is violated.