Adjusting the behavior of adults towards a restless child
Adults often have doubts when to calm a restless child. The nervousness of adults sometimes only worsens the situation. Here are some practical examples of how to adjust adult behavior to reduce children’s tantrums and tantrums.
- A child of a few months old – even a child of a few months old can be changeable. Adults sometimes get annoyed because they cannot explain the rules of polite behavior to such a small child. That is why certain habits should be explained to the child from an early age. This is achieved only by the exact and conscientious implementation of everything that the doctor recommended (that is, in the established order and specific content of children’s meals). The child should slowly acquire the habit of obediently accepting the food and care necessary for the child’s growth and development. However, there may be certain deviations according to the needs of the child, but mostly according to the agreement with the doctor.
- A two-year-old child does not want to put on a coat even though it is a cold day – wise adults will use a calm technique to persuade the child to put on a coat and take the child outside immediately. The child stops crying and complaining as soon as he feels the fresh air. Many children will resist and show willfulness in certain situations. Children should not be beaten, but adults should not give in to a child’s self-will. The best way to “treat children from such outbursts” is the calm demeanor of adults and the firmness of adults. Some children will run away and if the coat is already on, they will not want to go home, the child will scream if adults bring food, the child will generally be unbearable. Such a child should be understood – such a child is an eternal rebel, capricious and disobedient. The child should be helped, but without being nervous and impulsive (going to the doctor if the child is not healthy, or the child has an adjustment crisis, etc.). It is not desirable for adults to appeal to a child’s reason, feelings or intimidation. It is also not desirable for adults to obey a child or decide on small blackmails. Then it is best to find a way to focus the child’s attention on everything that is interesting to the child. Adults should have perseverance and patience if there is a period of children’s resistance.
- A four-year-old boy broke a flower vase. Adults get angry and should measure the punishment according to the possible presence of evil intent or simple child carelessness (the child inadvertently broke a vase during the game) and never according to the amount of damage.
- A six-year-old child broke his sister’s doll. Adults should punish the child appropriately. The child has savings to spend on buying a new doll. Adults will help the child to buy a new doll that will make his sister happy. This gives better results than “kneeling” in the corner.
- The child should gradually learn order and discipline through gentle punishment. Punishment must never affect the (mental and physical) health of the child (for example, locking the child in a dark room, requiring the child to kiss the hands of adults and behave humbly, etc.). Depriving a child of going to the cinema or watching cartoons is also an unreasonable punishment.
- Consistency of adults – But whatever mild punishment adults come up with, then adults should respect the implementation of that punishment, because inconsistency means the child’s disobedience and even greater rebelliousness. The child should slowly learn order, but never according to the current good or bad mood of the adults.