All life’s dilemmas can be solved with proper decisions
People make decisions related to various life issues, dilemmas and events every day. Choices are made without much thought and burden regarding decisions about food, clothes, shoes and the like. Such decisions will not significantly change human life. However, decisions related to life situations (change of job, financial investments, change of partner, etc.) can affect life. Such choices are then reflected in various aspects of life. People feel that these kinds of choices are more important and should be approached carefully.
Some people, after a process of consideration, will make a choice and continue living in accordance with the teachings. It often happens that the decision is not resolved even after consideration. Then the person remains in the “circle of indecision” for a long time. Such indecision becomes a problem because it disrupts daily life if it lasts too long.
Indecisiveness is a normal phenomenon in situations with important decisions
Indecision occurs when a person has to decide between 2 or more solutions that are equally attractive or repulsive. A person has an unpleasant feeling and lack of security due to an important and less important decision.
The decision should bring a chance for advancement and satisfaction, although there is no limit to how positive it will be. The decision-making process is accompanied by fear and questions about making life mistakes and wrong decisions. Even the most favorable decision can be unfavorable for an individual.
Accepting a dose of uncertainty is an essential emotional ability when making decisions and overcoming indecision. A person with the ability to tolerate uncertainty will not seek a guarantee for the future. He will consider all possible negativity and the circumstances that such negativity brings. Such a person will believe in his own ability and will not be afraid of making a wrong decision. The person accepts the possibility of error.
Other people cannot accept and tolerate uncertainty, so their fear increases and they become indecisive. Such indecisiveness is usually accompanied by a strong unpleasant feeling that additionally affects self-confidence and self-esteem. Such people opt for various mechanisms to resolve the dilemma and indecision due to the impossibility of making a decision.
Some people make impulsive decisions without fully considering the situation
Sometimes such a decision brings a positive outcome, but it happens that the individual ignores the risks and is exposed to an even bigger problem.
The mechanism for solving indecisiveness is also giving consent to others to decide. This way will do more harm than good. The person was originally under the pressure of unpleasant feelings and stress due to indecision for a long time. This affects self-confidence and self-esteem. A person becomes dependent on others and a passive observer of his own life. The results can be good even though the mentioned mechanisms of overcoming indecision are not favorable for the development of an emotionally mature personality.
The ability to make a decision
An adult should make every important decision according to his own life, needs, desires, and feelings. Decisions bring a certain risk and burden if they are unfavorable. Realizing that the individual made an independent decision in accordance with his own values will make it easier to overcome the burden of a wrong decision, but it also gives greater enjoyment of the benefits of a positive decision. An individual needs to know his own personality well and best so that decisions are correct and less wrong. In this way, the person will more clearly assess the situation and the final outcome.
An individual needs to do a thinking process in order to make a decision

1. The individual should complete the process of thinking, evaluating and deciding. 2. The individual should understand his own personality and dilemmas regarding the decision.
2. An individual should have several alternatives instead of only one solution to a problem.
3. The individual should think about the gain and loss related to each alternative.
4. The individual should finally choose a solution (alternative) and decide. There is no guarantee of the outcome. There is a realistic expectation.
5. An individual can always learn something new whatever the final outcome and perfect the skill of decision making.